Daylight Day 10: Weddings

“Do you think a wedding could cure EMOs?” I asked.

Pi snorted and said, “Has Ed bitten you at all?”

“No, we just make out.”

Pi looked ill.

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More wedding advice:

Your first priority is your relationship, and your second priority is your family. Your third is keeping your friendships (even picking your bridal party is a minefield).

1. Your relationship

I recommend scheduling at least one no-wedding-talk day a week, and dating your fiance that day. I also recommend NOT getting into debt. Does the ultimate photo really mean more than having a little less stress in the difficult early days of your marriage? My number-one piece of financial advice is that, unless you have at least $20,000 to spend, DON’T have a reception at all. Just have an afternoon tea at the church. People generally understand if you make sure to be clear about what’s happening well in advance (and DO NOT try on a dress if it is too expensive for you). And if you fiance and your mum both insist on something, your fiance gets to choose.

2. For family, my number one piece of advice is having a long engagement, with about five possible dates which you check with both your inner circle (parents, best friends), AND THEIRS, before sending out invitations. Number two is that, if they’ve given you money, they have a right to make certain demands (as long as the demands don’t exceed what you’ve been given).

Planning a wedding is the most stressful thing I’ve ever done, and it will probably be the most stressful thing you ever do. The industry is designed to manipulate your sensitive emotions to get alarming amounts of money out of you. Having a small, simple wedding shows that your relationship is more important than your ego.

2 thoughts on “Daylight Day 10: Weddings

  1. Sage advice there.
    I would add that if you opt for really trendy stuff it will be very obvious in 10 years when you look at your (possibly expensive!) photos… Classic is easier to cope with in hidsight (says I who hide my wedding photos, lol…)

  2. I met a lady at Centrelink who said her husband decided on a “fishing” theme for their wedding. She arrived in a boat, the ring was lowered on a fishing rod and line, etc.

    Now THAT is scary.

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